We all value different things
What do you actually want in love?
In 1654 in France, Madeleine de Scudéry drew a map of love, La Carte du Tendre — complete with a Lake of Indifference to suffer in silence, or the village “Billet doux” to let your ink talk. Four centuries later, the road hasn't gotten any straighter and never will, but perhaps we can spare our artichoke heart and avoid a wrong turn.
Free · no account · about two minutes · no partner required
Your priorities, ranked
Spaced by score, so you can see how far apart your choices really are. Only you can see this.
La Carte du Tendre, 1654 — the original map of love
How it works
One road, at your own pace.
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Just you
Priorities
What matters most to you
Rank what you feel, what you experience and what you want.
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Still just you
Trade-offs
What you would accept
When a partner falls short, decide ahead what makes up for it, and what never could.
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When you’re ready
Alignments
How you and a partner line up
Map a partner against your priorities, privately. Invite them only when you are ready.
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Public, anonymous
Surveys
How you compare with others
See how your list compares with everyone else's. Your name is never shown. See what others would trade, too.
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Just for fun
Tango
Dance tango? Rank what you want in a dance partner. There's a survey for dancers.
Two travellers, one map
Step one is the same for everyone: your priorities, ranked. Where the road goes next is up to you.
For singles & daters
Stop guessing who is right for you
Chemistry with several people gets cloudy. Map each prospect against your priorities and compare the fits side by side — privately, before you’re too invested. They never know.
For couples
A safe way to talk about the hard stuff
Knowing your own priorities offends no one — start there. Map your side privately, and share only if and when you’re ready. A gap becomes “how do we close this together?”, not criticism.